Returning to the Real World

This has been the most difficult transaction from vacation to coming back to my normal routine I have ever experienced.

I came back completely rested and ready to get back into the swing of it, but I got completely side tracked by having some whacko high jack my accounts, erase my websites and point the domains to their sites, post messages on my social media sites and basically messed with every aspect of my life they were able to attack.

Someone said it sounds like a personal vendetta but I can’t imagine what Hitendra Mishra has in his craw that would cause him to be so vindictive when I haven’t  the slightest idea who he is. So security is out to find him and though I doubt they will, I hope Karma catches up with him real soon.

It took me more than two weeks of working until two to three in the morning to restore all my websites and get everything else in order . . . I realized it is a good thing it happened now rather than a year from now when I have the UBU school up and running and I’ll be so buy I won’t have the time to follow up on details.

Speakers are required to live a more public life and one of the realities of today’s world is dealing with Cyber theft, Phishing, Spam and being vulnerable to the nonsense going on out in the world.

Learn to protect yourself:

• Get a security code card from PayPal
• Get a Trend Micro security USB Plug in to protect your laptop
• Get the latest updates of a name brand security software
• Keep your password file on a USB not on your laptop
• Get Identity Protection Insurance

Jitters

I don’t think most speakers can get through every speaking engagement without some level of nervousness. In fact I think it helps me to stay focused and deliver my best presentations.

Years ago I attend several Chi Gong classes and learned a couple of techniques that will help you over come the jitters.

The first technique is to balance your weight on your left foot. That will engage your right brain. Your right brain is your creative side and you literally can not be nervous when you are focused on the creative. When your weight is equally balanced or more focused on your right leg, you are engaging your left brain which is the critical thinker. When you are focused on your left brain you will think about “what are they thinking of me? “am I keeping their attention?” “do they like me?” or the worse one speakers do to themselves is “what if  I don’t  remember what I want to say?” Which is of course what will happen according to the Law of Attraction. Whatever you think is what you will attract.

Another technique is to press your fingernail to the end of either of your thumbs and it will stimulate your brain to give you more focus.

The plain and simple fact is that no one knows what you planned to say, so if you forget something or forget the order in which you intended, no one will know.

But when you let your audience see the real you and you can be vulnerable enough to let them relate to you, they will be more than generous. Typically they will assume you have to have expert status in your field or you wouldn’t be their speaker.